Paradoxically, the rise of the Sino Bitch in China reveals much about the Anglobitch, and gender-relations across the Anglosphere. What makes the Anglobitch Thesis such a potent concept is its flexibility – the way it can adapt and explain any situation in gender-relations.
What is the Sinobitch phenomenon? In China, women are an increasing problem, displaying many traits usually displayed by Anglo-American women – insolence, arrogance, entitlement and sexual manipulation. This situation has arisen simply because, due to China’s ‘One Child’ policy, sex is in short supply in China: there are thirty million sexless males without hope of sex or a partner. This gives Chinese women enormous power, since they possess what men want – sex: the prime commodity in gender-relations.
In the Anglosphere, women strive to simulate the same situation by banning prostitution, stigmatizing foreign brides and insisting on Jane Austenesque ‘romance’ – repression’s first redoubt. By restricting male access to sex, they have engineered a western facsimile of the Chinese situation. However, even at its best, this is a pale imitation of the conditions unfolding in China. A conservative estimate by the US State Department numbers Chinese prostitutes at 10 million:
A study of the sex industry in rural China found “ a lot of young girls want to get rich so badly and want to make use of their beauty before it slips away. They consider working hard a waste of time and feel their looks are a waste if they don’t take advantage of them immediately.” (Source: BBC)
Of course, many more Chinese women live as concubines or exchange sex for gifts. In short, the rise of the sexually manipulative Sinobitch is, ironically, a masterclass in Anglobitch studies. Sexual scarcity grants women power over men, which is why they go such lengths to maintain it. And all the cloudy talk by American 'pick-up artists’ (self-deluding bullshitters, for the most part) won’t change that.
However, the rising sense of entitlement among Chinese women extends beyond mere prostitution, the LCD of gender-relations. The following discussion of Sinobitch narcissism comes from a fascinating site called http://middlekingdomlife.com/, concerned with Anglo-American expats in China. While it contains interesting case studies, the article has several logical flaws. I will explain these errors in due course.
Pathological Narcissism and Grandiose Self Defenses
The single-child policy combined with pervasive traditional Confucian values and beliefs in regard to the superiority of males has led to some rather pathological cultural-specific dynamics in regard to Chinese female psychosocial and personality development.
1.The female child is a grave disappointment at birth, especially to her father. Whether spoken or not, this leads to either an estranged relationship (most common scenario) or one that is, at best, highly ambivalent.
2.As an only child, the daughter is nevertheless pampered and spoiled, especially by her mother and grandparents. If the father is conscious of his disappointment, resentment and subsequent guilt, he too may also overindulge his daughter in an attempt at psychological undoing.
3.This combination of factors leads to a child who feels both constitutionally damaged (i.e., inadequate, inferior at birth) and, at the same time, entitled to special treatment and compensation from the world. One of two types of pathological narcissism will emerge depending on the girl's cognitive and physical attributes:
a.If the girl is very gifted academically and considered physically attractive, she will become a phallic or exhibitionistic narcissistic.
b.If the girl is only an average student (or worse) and considered to be no better than average-looking, she will become a closet narcissist.
Case Illustration: "Andy," a foreign teacher in China married to a closet narcissist.
This post was written by a foreign male teacher in China and vividly describes what his life is like being married to a closet narcissist. It is a fairly common scenario in China, especially for Western men married to Chinese women, which is why it is included here.
Even my own wife has admitted (once) that she takes advantage of my temperate disposition and fair-mindedness to try to put it over on me.
My own wife used to be physically violent with me quite a bit. Hitting and scratching, punching, even biting etc., (basically, the untamed 3 year old). One time she smacked me across the head with a heavy book on the bus, and brought blood to my forehead.
She doesn't do it anymore, though. The last time she hit me, about two years ago, I jabbed her back with a short, sharp jab/punch to the shoulder - the only time I have ever hit a woman. It wasn't enough to cause any damage, but hard enough to let her know that physical violence is unacceptable, at least where I come from. And I told her so directly. It was basically like disciplining a child with a smack. We have talked about this since, and she admits that when she was little her father was "very weak" and she was treated like a princess. i.e. she never had appropriate boundaries set. Many Chinese kids get so much attention when they are little (esp. girls) that they grow up with a completely different mindset to western kids. Many expect the world to revolve around them, esp. now with the one child policy.
Case Illustration: Candy, the exhibitionistic narcissist.
This case vignette was written by a 30-year old American foreign teacher in China who had a very painful experience with an exhibitionistic narcissist he had met through an Internet dating service. Unfortunately, many Western men are exploited and manipulated for visas to their respective foreign countries every day in China.
I first met 23-year old Candy through an online dating service. I was frankly surprised at how quickly she answered my private message to her. We exchanged Yahoo Messenger IDs and then spent about two hours chatting online. She told me that all she was interested in was meeting a good man who could love her: that’s all. She wasn’t interested in a man’s wealth or his possessions, she wrote. She indicated that she had broken up with her first and only boyfriend about six months ago, another American who was 42 years older than her, and that she was ready to start a new relationship. Aside from all that, she was also probably the prettiest girl I had ever seen in China, so all of this was really hard for me to believe. But I wanted to believe, so I agreed to pay for a ticket for her to fly her up to meet me.
When I met her at the airport, I couldn’t believe my eyes: She was even prettier in person than she was in her photos. Inside the taxi, on the way to back to my apartment, I got the distinct impression that something was wrong, that she was distracted somehow, but I tried not to attend to that—I hoped that maybe I was just imagining it because I was so nervous and excited.
When we finally got to my apartment, she simply dropped the bags she had been carrying right next to the door and broke some bottle containing a liquid that then proceeded to leak all over the floor. She didn’t seem the least bit concerned by it and I was the one who would eventually clean it up the next morning.
After she was settled in, and we were both seated at the dining room table, I asked her to tell me what was really going on. I commented on how I realized a girl like her could get any man she wanted, so why would she be interested in a 30-year old guy like me who hadn’t accumulated much wealth and only had a four-year college education? After staring at and sizing me up for what felt like an eternity, while weighing all her options, she then proceeded to tell me the truth. As it turned out, she had lied about everything. She had not broken up with her 65-year old boyfriend at all. She was with me because they had a big fight after he had refused to marry her again. She admitted that her only interest in me was to get a visa to America. She wanted me to marry her and bring her to the states as soon as possible (she seemed to have no real idea about the length of time it took to get a marriage visa). She even offered me $20,000 USD if I would agree.
It’s hard to describe, but I don’t think I had ever been more heartbroken and disappointed than I was at the particular moment in time. I had never been married before so I was looking for a real wife, not a business deal, and I told her so. I then asked her to book a return flight back to her 65-year old boyfriend the next day. That was my third and last try with a Chinese girl. Although I remained in China for another two years before returning back to the states, I never dated another one again. I wouldn’t dare.
I recently received a message from Candy. Leonard finally agreed to marry her and her big dream came true: She has been living in California for the past five months. She also asked if I would come visit her because she wanted to have sex with a much younger man. When I told her that I wasn’t interested, she replied that she had already found a much younger and richer man to marry her after she gets her Green Card and divorces Leonard.
I actually felt sorry for the poor bastard. He probably has no idea.
Rookh Kshatriya's Analysis
The article's first error is in confusing female entitlement with a personality disorder:
If the girl is very gifted academically and considered physically attractive, she will become a phallic or exhibitionistic narcissistic.
In truth, arrogance and entitlement are very much natural - indeed, reflexive - female responses to 'owning' sex in a social situation where this premium commodity is in short supply. Where there is a shortage of eligible women, their commodity-status automatically rises - like any other commodity. During the First World War, even balding old crones could make a decent living sexually servicing the front-line troops, since no other women were available. Anglo-American women have of course 'simulated' these conditions by creating a vast edifice of 'romance' around gender relations, so that sex is dwarfed by the vast corpus of chivalric, latent-homosexual gestures that now surround the sexual act. On course, the true purpose of this insistence on Disneyfied 'romance' is to ration sex and thus raise its scarcity value, thus maintaining the Anglobitch Princess in her privileged status.
As for China itself, we are often told that all young Chinese males are 'little emperors' with an enormous sense of entitlement compared to western children. 'Andy's' testimony refutes this, however:
Many Chinese kids get so much attention when they are little (esp. girls) that they grow up with a completely different mindset to western kids.
Especially girls... Now, this chimes well with what we understand of Anglo-American women. Due to the puritanical nature of Anglo-American culture, Anglo girls grow up with a staggering sense of entitlement as 'owners' of sex in a repressive, explicitly 'homosocial' society. In the case of Chinese girls, this 'scarcity' situation will be augmented by sociobiological factors, in that a girl child might now be many low-status parents' sole hope of future reproductive success. So, pampered and cocooned in a world of entitlement, the young Chinese girl rapidly matures into a full-grown Sinobitch, viewing men (especially foreign men) entirely as meal-tickets and stooges. And of course, the influence of 'enlightened' Anglo-American culture on China in recent years can hardly have helped to quell this dangerous phenomenon.
In sum, the rise of the Sinobitch not only teaches us much about the Anglobitch; it reveals the socio-sexual dynamics underlying the Anglobitch phenomenon.